TAMA KID’S ANTI-BULLYING PROGRAM
Having your child enroll in any martial arts class or karate is one of the best decision a parent can take to prevent bullying. Why so? Because martial arts training can attribute in building your child’s confidence and belief in themselves and on both sides of the bullying equation.
Let’s understand the bullying aspects:
In truth, many researchers have found that kids who bully other kids often have average or even high levels of self-confidence. Bullies often have good influences over others and leadership skills, have an easy time making friends, and therefore have large group of friends
The Health Resources and Services Administration reports that “children and youth who bully usually have at least a small group of friends who support or encourage their bullying.”
This article will take a look at some of the motivations that drive bullying kid’s behaviors so that we can try to understand and attempt to answer this question Why the bullies bully?
“When children are involved in bullying as the aggressors,” explains Debra Pepler, Distinguished Research Professor of Psychology at York University, “they are experiencing regular lessons in how effective it can be to use their power aggressively to control and distress others.”
1. Bullies are rewarded for their bullying behaviors and by their peers.
It may seem counter-intuitive, but the fact is that kids often receive positive reinforcement from other peers when they bully others, in which only makes those kids continue their bullying behavior.
The rewards can be less tangible. The rewards could be the feeling of dominance and set fear over other children other than just forcing his victim to give up the lunch money. Bullies often enjoy status and prestige because others fear them. They also command a lot of attention for their behavior.
2. Bullies like the dominance power over other kids. They have a high need to be in control and exert their power over others
Kids who bully others are often driven by the desire for dominance. They can be, hot-headed, impulsive and they enjoy being able to control others.
One of the recent studies found that children who bullied others did so because they wanted to increase their popularity. To avoid losing their social status from their peers, bullies deliberately selected victims who were unpopular.
3. Bullies lack empathy, and they may enjoy seeing others in pain.
The studies have shown that bullies score low on tests of empathic reactivity, and have also found that bullies can be more likely to develop an anti-social personality disorder. This is a condition that causes people to ignore the rights and feelings of those around them.
One study scanned the brains of young people who had exhibited bullying behaviors in the past while they were watching videos that showed people experiencing pain. The researchers noticed a large amount of activity in the areas of the brain devoted to reward and pleasure.
This suggests that it’s not just a lack of empathy that’s the problem. Some bullies may derive pleasure out of seeing other people’s pain.
4. Kids who bully are influenced heavily by their family behavior and background.
It’s impossible to predict who becomes a bully and who doesn’t, but researchers have found some patterns in the types of families bullies have. North Dakota State University professor Laura DeHaan sums up the findings as follows:
“Bullies tend to come from families that are characterized as having little warmth or affection. These families also report trouble sharing their feelings and usually rate themselves as feeling less close to each other. Parent of bullies also tends to use inconsistent discipline and little monitoring of where their children are throughout the day. Sometimes parents of bullies have very punitive and rigid control styles, with physical punishment being very familiar. Bullies also report fewer feelings of closeness to their siblings.”
5. Bullies lack the ability to regulate their self-emotions.
Here is the surprising discovery by researchers who conducted the brain study: the parts of the bullies’ brains that allows them to self-regulate their emotions were inactive. The research suggests that bullies simply does not have a way to control their frustration and anger, which may result in overreactions to small instigations or provocations.
Providing the benefits such as self-control, confidence, discipline, respect, leadership, stress relief, and self-defense; martial arts/karate helps both the children who are being bullied and the children who are bullying others. Here’s how:
HOW CAN SELF-ESTEEM STOP BULLYING
The Bullies: The desire for power often drives children who bully others. They discover how effective it can be to use their authority in an aggressive way to control and subdue others. Martial arts classes help prevent bullying by always emphasizing the importance of using karate for self-defense only, never for offense.
Children Who Are Being Bullied: As we mentioned above, bullies pick victims that they think will be easy targets. Martial arts classes help stop bullying by teaching children how to defend themselves. Once they are armed with this knowledge, they will naturally project a much more positive image and thus, not come across as an easy target for bullies.
The Bullies: Studies have shown that bullies lack empathy, and have also found that bullies can be more likely to develop an anti-social personality disorder. This is a condition that causes people to ignore the rights and feelings of those around them. Martial arts helps prevent bullying by developing the capacity for empathy in these children.
Children Who Are Being Bullied: Bullies often target kids who are less popular. So if your child has few friends, this social isolation could put him at higher risk of being bullied. Martial arts helps stop bullying by training these kids to be more sociable and helping them make friends more easily.
By Relieving Stress Can Stop Bullying
The Bullies: As we discussed in our post exploring the reasons why people bully, bullies often enjoy status and prestige because others fear them. They also command a lot of attention for their behavior. Martial arts helps prevent bullying by building up these children’s confidence in other arenas so that they won’t need to resort to bullying for attention or approval.
Children Who Are Being Bullied: Bullies pick victims that they think will be easy targets. What makes an easy target? A child who seems weak, unsure of herself, or easily scared. Martial arts helps stop bullying by building up children’s confidence so that they can project an aura of strength and ensure that they are not perceived as easy targets.
By Reinforcing Discipline Can Stop Bullying
The Bullies: Bullies have a strong need to be in control and exert their dominance over others. That’s one of the reasons why they bully others. Martial arts helps prevent bullying by showing these children that everyone deserves respect, and that no one deserves to be mistreated.
Children Who Are Being Bullied: Being bullied can often shatter a child’s self-esteem and lead to a low self-image and loss of self-worth. In fact, that’s one of the warning signs of bullying. Martial arts helps stop bullying by showing these children that if they want others to respect them, they first must learn to respect themselves.
By Mastering Self-Control Can Stop Bullying
The Bullies: As we discussed in our post that explored the question “why do people bully others?” — one of the factors that contribute to bullying behavior is an inconsistent approach to discipline at home. Martial arts helps prevent bullying by providing children with a clear-cut and consistent structure of training that helps them learn which types of behavior are acceptable and which are not.
Children Who Are Being Bullied: Victims of bullying can sometimes make things worse for themselves by acting in ways that make it easy for others to taunt or threaten them. Martial arts helps stop bullying by teaching these children the discipline to manage their behavior in such a way that it does not in any provoke or trigger a bully.
By Increasing Respect Can Prevent Bullying
The Bullies: Children who bully others can be impulsive, hot-headed, and dominant. Martial arts helps prevent bullying by helping these kids become more aware of their thoughts and emotions and training them to control negative impulses that could lead to bullying behaviors.
Children Who Are Being Bullied: Victims of bullying often are not adept at recognizing what kind of behavior triggers a bully to lash out. Martial arts helps stop bullying by empowering these children to control their actions in such a way that will prevent a negative situation from spiraling into conflict or violence.
By Developing Leadership Skills Can Prevent Bullying
The Bullies: Bullies lack the ability to self-regulate emotions Often, they simply don’t have a way to control their anger and frustration, which may result in severe overreactions to small provocations. Martial arts helps prevent bullying by giving them an outlet to blow off some steam. This makes it much less likely for them to take their frustration out on other kids.
Children Who Are Being Bullied: One of the effects of bullying is that bullied kids often report symptoms such as coughing, sore throat, stuffy nose, headaches, and stomachaches. These kids are far more likely than others to report feeling physically sick because they deal with such high levels of stress that it wears down their immune system. Martial arts helps stop bullying by providing a way for these children to relieve stress through vigorous physical exercise.
By Learning Self Defense and or Martial Arts Can Prevent Bullying